Learning to be rude beautifully???? - more than 200 phrases

How to respond to an insult beautifully? Assess the situation, psychotype and level of intellectual development of the opponent, and then select one of the pre-prepared phrases. The answer can be witty, simple and offensive, or complex with a veiled offensive meaning. In any case, it is important not to stoop to the level of your opponent, that is, not to resort to direct threats and personalities, and not to resort to obscene words and expressions. Today we will learn to respond to insults, rudeness and rudeness with dignity and grace.

Example 2. Jesus Christ.

Jesus is not the “right answer”, but really the One who set the example with his humility.
Basically, as my pastor says, there was no Jesus. There was only God the Father, who manifested Himself through Jesus.

Jesus came to earth as Lord. But he humbled himself to a man

Here is a very good scripture about Jesus.

6 He, being in the image of God, did not consider it robbery to be equal with God; 7 But he made himself of no reputation, taking the form of a servant, and becoming in the likeness of men, and becoming in appearance like a man; 8 He humbled himself, becoming obedient even to the point of death, even death on the cross.

Let's break it down.

Jesus was by nature God
Didn't hold on to equality with God
Humiliated Himself

In the Greek the word "disdained" is also translated as

make vain or empty, abolish, destroy.

Do you understand what this means?

We are responsible for our own humility. There are people who consider themselves to be someone great.

But Jesus did not consider Himself great. Only God was great to Him.

Taking the form of a slave

Jesus served God willingly. Became a slave.

Humbled Himself.

Pay attention to this place again. Jesus Humbled Himself

This is everyone's personal responsibility. Jesus showed us an example

Jesus humbled Himself. This is everyone's personal responsibility. Jesus showed us an example.

By being obedient.

Jesus was obedient only after He humbled Himself.

Of course, when a person comes out with conceit, he is all himself - what kind of obedience is there?

Jesus set the example. He humbled Himself and was obedient to God. And thanks to this, you and I have everything that He won by His death.

How to say in smart words that a person is stupid?

Use these phrases:

“Your mind is like a cat crying!”
“The brain is no bigger than a chicken!”
“The head is big, but there is no brain!”
“Your brain has no convolutions!”
“You only have one curve and it’s smooth!”
"You understand me? Although yes, where are you going?”
“Were you born this stupid or did you become so stupid?”
“You were last in line for brains”
“Nature did not reward you with intelligence”

How to tell a person that he is stupid without using swear words?

Conclusion.

If there is a desire in your heart for honors and recognition, you need to check whether everything is pure with your motives.

But the main thing is to remember that the law of exaltation and humiliation always works.

If you are humble and do your job well before God, He will definitely exalt you.

If you think a lot about yourself, are proud and take credit for yourself, you will definitely be humiliated.

It's God's Word speaking, not me. And the examples of Napoleon Bonaparte, Bobby Fischer, Mother Teresa and Jesus Christ are clear evidence of this.

May the Lord give you wisdom to choose the right path.

Text prepared by Vladimir Bagnenko

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How to Learn Sarcasm Using Sassy Funny Words

Having learned to use impudent and funny expressions appropriately, you will certainly be able to gain fame in your close circle as a person with a good sense of humor and mastery of the technique of sarcasm

But it is important not to forget that insolence can be fraught with consequences, and with such phrases you can provoke your interlocutor to an unpredictable reaction

Go, lie down, rest. Well, at least on the rails.
I could have offended you, of course, but nature has already dealt with it for me.
Nobody scares you, you will be afraid in the mirror.
Your mouth could use a stapler.
Well, you jingled the chain, now go to the booth.

Understanding the art of sarcasm

And yet, it is important to note that people who know how to express themselves in a sarcastic manner do not always use this skill when trying to insult or humiliate someone. Often, sarcasm is heard when some non-trivial situation is being commented on - then it looks funny and organic

It is almost impossible to comprehend the art of sarcasm for a person whose vocabulary is not particularly diverse and whose horizons are rather limited. That is why it is worth reading and learning more. Type into the search: “Authors who write with humor.” As you yourself understand, truly “sharp” phrases are in any case made up of words, the variety of which you can easily glean from intellectual films and books. By the way, examples of some witty phrases can also be seen in books. As a last resort, learn sarcasm from people who make a living from their jokes - we are talking about participants and hosts of various comedy television shows.

If you want to be known as a truly witty person, then do not repeat the mistake that is common to many novice jokers or people who imagine themselves to be such. Having heard or read some interesting joke or funny expression, they periodically repeat it in order to make their interlocutor laugh. The first couple of times it can be really funny, but then people start smiling just out of politeness, and that’s for the time being. As you understand, it is simply unacceptable for anyone to associate a master of sarcasm with a broken record.

How can you call a person smart words?

Choose more friendly curse words to insult your offender without using obscene language. This will show you only from the best side, as a reasonable and educated person, not spoiled and knowing dignity.

What words can you choose:

A trinket is an unnecessary thing, empty and soulless, having no purpose, on which time is wasted, something without mind and reason.
A cheap utensil is someone of low worth, someone who is not needed and has little value in the world.
A soulless person is a person devoid of any values and inner peace.
Shame (shame) - a person devoid of dignity, a person who brings shame and problems to loved ones.
A shameless person is a person devoid of respect and understanding of the people around him, a person without spiritual values.
Carrion is a person who has fallen in the eyes of others, a person who is comfortable existing in the dirt of words, actions and betrayal.
A cattle is a person who does not behave rationally, a person who is compared to an animal.
A stupid creature is a person who does not know how to do smart things.
An animal is a person who does not know how to act well and is deprived of his essence.
An insect is a person devoid of a human being
A mongrel is a person devoid of nobility and education

How to call a person without using obscenities?

Book seven: title to be confirmed.

Currently in the process of being written. It tells about the final stage of working on oneself

Awareness is not enough, even if it can stir up something very important and true. Now the hero has to truly learn to live outside all the thoughts of people, outside thoughts about his dream, outside the overly important past of everything.

He understands that he truly exists only when he feels his presence in real life. This is a complete renunciation of everything. But not doomed - waiting, or angry - desperate. Here the hero will have to live in the absence of his main thing, turning to the experience that he has already received. This last part of the book is the exit from the book - the circle. After all, the hero has long realized that the book itself “sucked in” him...

What will happen at the end of this path, the author finds it difficult to say. At the time of writing this essay, the journey is still ongoing...

Spectators as partners in crime

Saida Abdullabekova

Lawyer Saida Abdullabekova believes that trash streams should be blocked through complaints. There are two authorities that respond very quickly: the prosecutor’s office and Roskomnadzor. Roskomnadzor blocks the video if it is a violation, and the prosecutor's office checks for the presence of a crime in this incident. Complaints can be submitted online. From the point of view of the law, trash streams fall under a criminal article:

— Infliction of grievous bodily harm, death on live television is a criminal offense. But there are two sides here: the one who removes all this bears one responsibility. And the one who pays money for it has a different responsibility.

If there is a crime in a particular case, viewers can act as accomplices who provoke the creation of such content and pay money for it. Thus, they encourage those who film all this and broadcast it online to carry out such actions.

— Anyone who donated money for such an action, degrading honor, dignity, causing physical harm, is this already an accomplice according to the law?

“If there is a crime, it will be proven that money was received; if a cause-and-effect relationship is established - it was the spectators who called for the beating, for example, they can also be held criminally liable. As well as those who do it all live. But we must keep in mind that this is often an imitation. But in some cases, streamers go beyond what is permitted and it ends in failure.

According to the law, torture is Article 117 of the Criminal Code of the Russian Federation, imprisonment for up to three years

If a fatal outcome occurs, it is considered causing death by negligence, Article 109 of the Criminal Code of the Russian Federation - up to two years in prison. . “Our legislation is ambiguous,” continues the lawyer.

— It is believed that causing death by negligence is punishable less than torture. But there is a very important point here: the fact of negligence must be confirmed, that there was no intent, there were no preparatory actions for this crime. And torture is precisely the infliction of damage, physical and moral abuse, direct intent

“Our legislation is ambiguous,” continues the lawyer.

And torture is precisely the infliction of damage, physical and moral abuse, direct intent.

— Have such criminal cases already been initiated in Russia or not yet?

“We are now actively pursuing this.” While blogging in Russia is not regulated by law, it is very difficult to establish any legal norm for this or that activity of a blogger.

But now a lot of messages are coming in, and checks have become more frequent. Most likely, there will be a legislative initiative so that we can regulate this activity. The Internet space is controlled by Roskomnadzor, which can block certain videos and articles

Therefore, if the public and the media get involved, most likely the state will pay attention to this.

Blogger Stas Reshetnyak (Reeflay) has been charged with intentionally causing grievous harm to the health of a girl who died on his live broadcast (Part 4 of Article 111 of the Criminal Code of the Russian Federation). He faces up to 15 years in prison. The investigation will insist on the arrest of the streamer.

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"An Awkward Evening" by Marieke Lukas Reineveld

"Eksmo", translation from Dutch. Ksenia Novikova; november

This year's International Booker Prize went to Awkward Evening, and this is a case where reading can also be very awkward - not because it is a poorly written novel, no, Rijneveld writes (the author asks for the use of the third person plural pronoun in relation to himself numbers to emphasize their gender neutrality) is good, sharp and thoughtful, but the whole novel as a whole is such a slap in the face to public taste, with which many authors probably still begin their literary career. The story of Yas, a girl in a red coat growing up on a farm and acutely experiencing the death of her brother, the foot-and-mouth epidemic, painful growing up, the cramps of puberty, sexual experiments, awareness of the body during defecation and snot-like milk froths, in its essence is not much different from any rebellious , an unabashed, sugar-free coming-of-age story, of which there are quite a few in literature. But perhaps the enduring appeal of such stories is that each time they are written as if for the first time, and the closer the author is to this painful period (Rijneveld is not yet thirty), the louder and more honest they sound.

Rules of beautiful rudeness

You need to learn to respond to the witticisms of loved ones, friends and other people in the correct form. If you are provoked into a quarrel, then you can resort to psychological measures in response. So, let's learn to be rude beautifully!

Those who like to chat online are familiar with the term “trolling.” The trick is that in response to the rudeness of the foul speaker, he receives a set of intelligent abstruse phrases, like: “What do you think about the race of people, being an outsider?”
Another way is to answer in the form of a question. “Oh, sorry, I can’t talk now, I’m busy. In 20 years, where can I find you?”
A sense of humor helps under any circumstances. There are many phrases about this on the Internet. Here are examples. “Opposite my house there is a cemetery. If you get kicked out, you’ll live opposite,” or “Giggle, giggle. You can’t laugh with such and such teeth”, “Are we going yet? Why is it so leisurely?”, “You speak, speak. Maybe you’ll say something smart!”
The martial arts called “aikido” is based on the principle of “giveaways”. Techniques are also used in a dispute, agreeing with the opponent and disarming.
Disappointment can easily cool the ardor of a “hot head.” You can use, for example, the following phrases: “Come on, don’t worry. One day you’ll be able to say something funny,” or “Don’t be upset, many are deprived of talent”...
“Allergy” is used starting with a cough or yawning, after which they say: “Sorry, my allergy begins with verbal diarrhea.” “Speak, speak. I always yawn when I'm interested."

St. John Climacus

When we seek glory, or when, without seeking on our part, it comes to us from others, or when we attempt to use certain tricks that serve vanity: then let us remember our cry and think about the holy fear and trembling with which we stood before God in our solitary prayer; and thus, without a doubt, we will shame shameless vanity, if, however, we strive for true prayer. If we do not have this in us, then let us hasten to remember our outcome. If we do not even have this thought, then at least we will be afraid of the shame that follows vanity, because “he who exalts himself will certainly humble himself” even here before the next century.

Word 22. About diverse vanity.

St. Macarius the Great

for whoever exalts himself will be humbled, and whoever humbles himself will be exalted

For the sea, when all the rivers flow into it, is not filled, so the soul, worthy to enter the world of the Divinity of the Spirit, is not satiated, no matter how many gifts of grace (God) gives it, and how much it receives, it seeks; and no matter how much he is satisfied, he still desires, and no matter how much he is filled, he still feels the lack, and, like some kind of unfilled abyss, he is settled from much spiritual desire and heavenly love, the insatiable love of Christ. She walks on earth and is in heaven with the Lord according to her mood. Those who dedicate themselves to humble wisdom and do not accept the thoughts of exaltation and self-importance, but consider themselves unworthy before God and people and always strive like beginners, and thus humiliating and humbling themselves, are worthy to receive these great benefits. As the Lord says: “He who humbles himself will be exalted, and he who exalts himself will be humble.” For those who become partakers of some small grace and give themselves up to exaltation because they think that they are someone, offend the grace of the Spirit and are deprived of the good that they possess, for the folly of their infancy.

Collection of manuscripts type I. Word 21.

<...> one who is enriched by God's grace must remain in great humility and contrition of heart, consider himself poor and having nothing, think: “what I have for myself, everything that belongs to someone else, another gave me, and when he wants, he will take it from me.” He who humbles himself before God and people in this way can preserve the grace given to him, as it is said: “humble yourself, he will be exalted.” Being God's chosen one, let him condemn himself, and being faithful, let him consider himself unworthy. Such souls please God and are quickened by Christ.

Collection of manuscripts type II. Conversation 41.

How to take revenge on your husband for insults and humiliation

When a woman thinks about how to survive humiliation, the thought appears that only revenge will help her feel relief. Behind any desire for revenge lies lost energy and a thirst for restoration of justice, but it may turn out that in any case, forgiveness will come. First of all, you need to honestly answer yourself what exactly you want. If you return the wasted time or make him understand how wrong he was, then revenge is powerless in these cases, it will only inflame your emotions. You need to find something that will calm your soul and fill it. Perhaps for this it will be enough for the man to ask for forgiveness - then you don’t need to scratch his car, but speak directly and honestly about your own feelings and grievances, as well as the need for his apology. There will be more peace after this, but this step requires many times more courage than doing dirty tricks anonymously.

Before developing a plan for any revenge, you need to take care of your own safety and eliminate the negative impact of the steps taken on your own career, communication with friends and your own emotional state. If the first two points can be more or less calculated and secured, then your own psyche may fail you. The fact is that the same amount of energy resources is spent on revenge as on help and self-healing. While there is a thirst for revenge, a colossal amount of energy is given, and after retribution is completed, a feeling of emptiness and dissatisfaction can settle. Even worse, many become addicted to the adrenaline rush that occurs in the body while concocting and implementing a plan for revenge. In such situations, the suffering of another does not improve one’s own perception of the world. This is comparable to drinking alcohol to warm up in the cold - at first there is a feeling of warmth, but in the end the body freezes many times faster.

One way to get revenge without disturbing your emotional balance too much is to start communicating with men who behave differently. Do not arrange romantic affairs, but simply accept signs of attention, thank loudly and in a detailed form for the help provided and courteous attitude. When a husband observes that his woman blossoms next to others, he will begin to track what kind of actions such a reaction occurs to, and the feeling of jealousy will painfully prick his pride. The option is optimal because you not only take revenge, but also show your spouse possible solutions. Plus, you boost your self-esteem.

Any humiliation is aimed at manipulation and lowering self-esteem, and the best revenge would be to disrupt such plans, that is, you need to organize your life in order to be as happy, successful and independent from your husband’s attacks and caustic statements as possible. If he resorts to humiliation, it means that other methods have run out, and the ineffectiveness of this method will make him fight in hysterics. Many people end the relationship after this, unable to recognize the other’s right to their choice and happiness, but there are also those who realize the limits of their capabilities and enter into an open dialogue.

Constructive

Be constructive.

Don’t waste your smart thoughts, otherwise you’ll reach your limit and you’ll have nothing to pass on to your children...
Your IQ discourages any desire to discuss this topic with you.
I think that you should stop the meaningless vibration of the air, because our communication is destructive.
If you decide to argue, then speak to the end or admit defeat. And swearing without a reason is already a pathology.
I see no point in continuing the conversation, because you and I are at different intellectual poles.
As Mark Twain said: “Never argue with idiots. You will sink to their level, where they will crush you with experience.” I’ll follow his advice and won’t argue with you.

How to turn off, send a guy, a man away with clever words?

There are situations when a woman should rebuff a man so that he no longer pesters and has no plans for her. A weak and stupid woman will swear with obscene language, while a smart woman will allow you to put a person in his place with just one word and a look. A woman's strength is in her behavior and words.

What to tell a man:

“You are not even worthy of my glance!”
“I will not tolerate such humiliation as to give you my attention!”
“You’re so low that I didn’t even notice you at first!”
“In my eyes you are nothing!”
“To me you’re not even a man!”
“I don’t want to deal with such a low entity like you!”
“Looking at you, I only feel pity!”
“I can’t stand boors, they are my competitors!”
“May I send you intellectually?”
“You think I can actually spend time with you? Well, probably thinking is not about you!”

How to tell a guy off or rebuff a man with words without swearing?

What is humiliation

Humiliation is the other side of arrogance, and the more arrogant a person is, the more inclined he is to humiliate others. The desire to show oneself in a favorable light knows no bounds, and if this requires denigration of others, then it will be done.

The feeling of humiliation serves as a kind of regulator of social relationships. By humiliating another, society or a particular person sends a message about shortcomings and failure to meet expectations.

The humiliation of a woman by a man is perceived so painfully in part because it is practically a direct text about her inconsistency with his ideas. Modern man's need for social acceptance is almost tantamount to the survival instinct, therefore any humiliation from society is perceived as a personal threat to existence.

If a person has a very high opinion of himself and considers himself right everywhere, then facing his own inconsistency and humiliation can become a fatal test for him. It is precisely because of the large difference between social perception and one’s own that an entire personal structure and perception of the world as such can collapse. People who evaluate themselves adequately and critically, treat their own shortcomings with humor, and are practically not subject to humiliation.

Humiliation can also be divided according to its source of origin. Thus, other people can humiliate, deliberately reducing a person’s merits, showing how much better and more successful they are. This is conscious humiliation, purposeful and is a factor of influence from the outside. But internal preconditions for self-humiliation are also possible, when a person perceives the successes of others as his own failure, when he deliberately downplays his own contribution or successes. For such a character, external factors are not needed to feel humiliation; the person copes on his own. If such a trait is not developed, then even the special influence of others in attempts to lower self-esteem may be unsuccessful.

How to insult, offend a man, a guy without swearing, with clever words?

Some phrases that do not contain swearing or rudeness should not be very long. The fact is that a person who offends you with obscene language is unlikely to be able to understand literate and cultured words, as well as their meaning and the delicacy with which you pronounce them. Answer in short, but as comprehensible phrases as possible. Deliver your speech confidently, firmly, and be sure to make eye contact so that what you say is heard.

IMPORTANT: You have the power to insult a man or guy for the wrongs caused with just one phrase that conveys all your pain and strength. Do not react to any cry and let everything said in your honor pass through you, because it is your word that will be the last and decisive

How to humiliate a handsome guy?

Human psychology is designed in such a way that even one impudent word can cause strong offense.

At the same time, it is not at all necessary that it be a swear word; you can humiliate, insult, besiege, put in your place with cultural words. But not everyone can do this.

Often unpleasant situations arise between a girl and a guy - a quarrel, misunderstanding, and sometimes a fight with insults.

In the latter case, it is worth using several techniques to humiliate and insult the offender with clever words, so that he would not raise his hand in the future.

Note! The worst and most unpleasant thing a man can do to a girl or woman is to raise his hand. In these situations, it’s worth hitting him where it hurts most, and this should be done morally

Guys are very offended by phrases using the word "impotent"

In these situations, it’s worth hitting him where it hurts most, and this should be done morally. Guys are greatly offended by phrases using the word “impotent.”

The table shows the qualities that are considered holy for a guy.

Clever curse words

You can easily insult a person with clever words. Phrases may hint at illness, disadvantage, weakness, appearance, status or other important qualities.

They should be used if the offender offended without reason, insulted, or even raised his hand.

Let's look at smart phrases without swearing:

You're doing the right thing by giggling. They don't laugh with your teeth!
If you fall under the hot hand, you will fly under the hot foot
Teeth are not hair; if they fly out, you won’t catch them.
You remind me of the ocean... You make me just as sick.
I probably have to look like a sucker to fit in with you.
There is no need to feel sorry for him, he is not sick, this is his usual appearance.
Yes, beauty is clearly not your advantage.
I would send you, but, apparently, you have already been there.
A positive Rh factor is, apparently, the only “plus” in the list of your advantages.
It’s okay, I didn’t remember your name either.
I don’t have the strength to listen to your insanity.
Are you always this stupid, or is today a special occasion?
As an outsider, what do you think about the human race?
I would like to punch you in the teeth, but why should I improve your appearance?
At least there is one positive thing about your body. It's not as scary as your face!
The brain isn't everything. But in your case it’s nothing!
Be careful not to let your brain get into your head!
I like you. They say I have disgusting taste, but I love you.
Have your parents ever asked you to run away from home?
If only I had a face like yours. I would sue my parents!
Don't be upset. Many people have no talent either!
Don't be offended, but is it your job to spread ignorance?
Keep talking, someday you will manage to say something smart!

How best to respond to rudeness

There is a significant difference between the rudeness of well-known people and random strangers - the answers must be adequate. General recommendations for the person answering:

remain completely calm and friendly;
be lenient and gentle;
respond with a sense of humor, but without anger.

How to respond to the rudeness of strangers and distant people

When communicating with strangers, it is important to remain polite, since it is sometimes inappropriate to be rude to them, but of course everything depends on the circumstances.

If rudeness manifests itself in communication with employees of government, medical and social departments, it is better not to make cutting remarks and ironic phrases. This can have consequences for the person to whom the rudeness was expressed. It’s better to write a letter of complaint addressed to a superior person, organization, or simply threaten the boor: “if you don’t stop insulting me, I will write a complaint about your work.”

There is no point in overtly insulting employers or people on whom anything meaningful to the humiliated person may depend. In these cases, you need to maintain your own opinion, gently but convincingly proving it using weighty arguments. Rudeness is inappropriate here: calmness and confidence in your opinion will look much more beautiful.

If people working in the service sector are rude, you can make an ironic remark to them, pointing out in response that they are behaving incorrectly. It is important here not to succumb to provocation. Good phrases:

“You talk, you talk. Maybe you’ll finally say something smart!”;
“Isn’t the zoo closed for the night?”;
“You try to compensate for the deficit of the mind with noise, don’t you?”;
“Alas, I don’t have time to humor your complexes.”

Moral humiliation of a guy or girl who abandoned

The methods are the same as described above. Doing this is strictly not recommended, because the other person has the right to terminate the relationship unilaterally if he is not satisfied with it. Emotions have nothing to do with this. Everyone is free to do what they want, being responsible for the consequences.

In addition, the desire to morally humiliate a guy or girl who has been abandoned is a sign of addiction. A psychologically mature person easily breaks up a relationship and does not want to take revenge. The logic of a dependent abandoned person is this: “If he feels bad, I feel good.” And it should be like this: “I feel good, regardless of the emotions of the other and what they do to me.” Psychological immunity is very important.

Thus, in most cases, humiliating another is an unproductive method, which speaks of the psychological immaturity of the one who wants to humiliate. It may be unpleasant, but it's true. Even if you humiliate someone, then only in a beautiful, cultured and elegant way, without using swearing, physical force and other methods that characterize the person using them from the bad side.

How to shut a person's mouth with clever words?

IMPORTANT: The concept of “shut your mouth with clever words” assumes that you will find phrases that, after an offense, can bring a person to reason and warn him against making a new mistake. “Smart words” are words devoid of obscenities and rudeness, but imbued with reasonable meaning. They push a person to conclusions and leave a mark on the soul stronger than any obscene word.

Phrases to “shut a person’s mouth”:

“Ever since you opened your mouth, the stench hasn’t stopped coming out of it, like a cesspool!”
“It would be better if you didn’t open your mouth, because all your words only showed how low you are!”
“You opened your mouth and immediately realized that this was a stupid person in front of me!”
“Your words did not show your best side!”
“Ever since you opened your mouth, my opinion of you has changed for the worse!”
“Your words have brought you lower than ever in my eyes!”
“You are incredibly stupid if you think that everything you say is smart speech!”

How to do and what to say to a person so that he can shut up: phrases without swearing

"The Glass Hotel" by Emily St. John Mandel

"Eksmo", translation from English. Yana Barsova; October

Emily St. John Mandel became truly famous after the publication of her fourth novel, Station Eleven, a post-apocalyptic elegy about the modern world with its supermarkets, click-on electricity and taking off airplanes. “The Glass Hotel” to some extent seems to be a continuation of this novel, although in it - with the exception of literally two or three Easter eggs and one heroine who lives a completely different life here - there are almost no plot coincidences. The main theme of “The Glass Hotel” is the ghostly life that we, willy-nilly, begin to live in our minds, having made some important and irreversible choice, taking advantage of the opportunity, saying to ourselves: “Why not?” All the characters in the novel, whose destinies are intertwined in one way or another - from a financial schemer to a barmaid yearning for her mother, from a drug-addicted composer to a former artist - all the time return their thoughts to the moment when, with their choice, they forever changed either their lives or the lives of other people. , sometimes completely tragic. And in this respect, “The Glass Hotel” seems just as ghostly and stylistically, structurally a more perfect version of “Station Eleven.” This is a perfectly structured and incredibly elegant novel with the same intonation note - how wonderful is the life that we will no longer live - but only simpler and more austere. It does not have the abundance of plot that was in “Station Eleven” (comic book, cult, murder, tragic love), but there are only clean, clear lines of several complex lives that, once in contact, changed the world forever.

Why does a man humiliate a woman?

Humiliation of a woman by a man happens quite often, many consider it the norm and pass it by, some fight desperately, but in order to counteract such a phenomenon, it is necessary to understand the reasons for its occurrence.

One of the reasons for such male behavior may be an unconscious response to female humiliation, screaming, insults or claims. Negative statements have a very strong impact on the male psyche and immediately trigger defense mechanisms in it. Sometimes this can mean going on the defensive and remaining silent all evening, and sometimes the temperature of the situation is so heightened that the man immediately launches a retaliatory attack.

Another unconscious motive for humiliation may be the desire to be right in everything and to achieve agreement by any means. If logical arguments for a woman are not significant, and a man’s authority is questioned, then the last resort for achieving one’s rightness and satisfying desire is to humiliate a woman to demonstrate one’s own strength and importance.

This behavior may be a habitual line of behavior that a man learned from his childhood, watching his father constantly humiliate his mother. A man who grew up in such a family simply does not know how else to deal with a woman. It can also be a way to end a relationship when there is not enough courage to end everything openly, and the man chooses to make the relationship unbearable for the woman so that she leaves him.

But it is always the man who is to blame for the manifestation of humiliating behavior, whether his actions are conscious or not. If one day in a relationship a humiliating phrase slipped through his mind and instead of fighting back, expressing dissatisfaction and other signs that were so unacceptable, the woman caved in, did what she wanted and remained silent about her own negative feelings, then the conclusion will be made that this is possible. A man will not guess about his inner experiences, especially if a woman continues to remain silent from time to time and wait for him to understand. In such behavior he sees only that such treatment has the effect of fulfilling what is necessary. When a man learns after a long period of time that such treatment is unacceptable, he is extremely surprised as to why it was not possible to inform him earlier.

It can also be a displaced need for power, which cannot be obtained at work, or a way to relieve nervous tension received during the day. Such a need is compensated for at home by commanding a woman, placing himself above her.

Some men deliberately destroy a woman's self-esteem through humiliation and even develop special tactics for this. This is all done out of fear of losing a woman, because she is stronger in character or because of her own inadequacy. In any case, a man who is spiritually weak and incapable of open and honest dialogue, frank building relationships and with deep psychological problems applies humiliation to a woman.

How to besiege, put a man, a guy, a subordinate in his place with clever words?

Very often, people at work completely lack professional ethics and a subordinate may “allow himself too much” during a conversation with his superiors. The administration, in turn, are highly educated and well-mannered people, which allowed them to occupy such a rank.

A person with a higher rank must be able to “verbally punish” his subordinate for an offense and force him to respect himself with cultural words alone. They need to be spoken confidently and strictly, avoiding emotional gestures and explosive phrases.

What you can emphasize in a conversation with a subordinate:

For lack of education
Ask to see a document on higher or professional education.
Threaten with loss of job due to incompetence
Say that a person risks losing respect in the eyes of his superiors and colleagues.
Threaten with a fine or loss of bonus

How to “put a subordinate in his place”:

“You make me regret that I once decided to hire you.”
“In my eyes, you instantly lost your qualifications!”
“I believe that our company is overpaying you, because your education is not worthy of such a salary.”
“I think you just spent your bonus!”
“I will not allow ignorance to flourish in my conscientious team!”
"You are our disgrace
“You are dragging our team and our company down!”

How to “put in place” a subordinate with words without swearing?

Phrases about intelligence, logic and brain

Remind the boor that he is stupid.

Think about it - it doesn't hurt. None of you are making a fool, this is entirely your initiative. Well, how is that? You seem to have thought and still said something stupid! It's OK. Jellyfish also live without brains. You can't cover up brain defects with foundation. I don’t know what motivated you, but I immediately rule out logic. Your logic can be sent to the front

-Why? - She kills. With your intuition, you can only predict which hand the watermelon is in... I would fight you in an intellectual battle, but I'm afraid that you don't have a weapon. Actually, this is primitive and banal, but in your case it will pass for a deep and original thought. You are direct proof that a person can live without a brain. And you are smarter than they say about you! Be careful not to fall from the level of your conceit to the level of your intelligence, otherwise you will crash. I understand that your brain is perfectly smooth. Judging by your facial expression, the information has entered your head and your brain is still hopeless. And don't try to put words into sentences. This is not yours, my friend, not yours... Check the connection of the tongue to the brain. Thinking is not your thing! But stupidity is your best friend! Well, go ahead, show off your intelligence - the answer is - Lord, I was already blinded. Bring the microscope! Now we're not going to look at his brains. I thought you were crazy about me...

It turned out that you were crazy before me... I don’t even know what you eat in the morning. But it definitely doesn't improve your intelligence. The shell will have more sense. My God, why are you so stupid? Your intelligence is only enough to make peels from seeds. You're so smart, doesn't your skull hurt?

Rude people: how to deal with them

This category of people is characterized by low self-esteem, a sick psyche and a lack of healthy energy. They try to assert themselves and replenish their energy supply at the expense of other people. In this case, wine does not play a role, but you just want to “break loose.” It seems that it is impossible to talk to such people. However, there is always a way out of the situation.

It’s amazing, but they can only be rude and rude to certain people. They bypass some. Why does this happen? There is an explanation for this. Does not allow you to fight back a rude person:

conflict-free nature;
guilt;
diffidence;
weak human biofield.

This is felt by rude people on a subconscious level, and such people become “easy prey.” But you shouldn’t silently endure insults or, conversely, answer something like “you’re a fool.” Therefore, we learn to be rude beautifully!

It is more effective and better for your own well-being. The main thing is not to stoop to the level of the offender, otherwise you will have to recognize a similar level of culture in yourself. Therefore, you need to come up with a non-standard answer. Which? Bold but beautiful.

Make the foul-mouthed person feel stupid and retreat. Thus, intelligence, intelligence and self-confidence overcome limitations and arrogance. The result will be a witticism, grounded in erudition, and hidden in a cultural phrase. This is where the techniques of beautiful rudeness lie. There seems to be no swearing, but at the same time the rude person is shown in a bad light. The phrase: “Oh, what a sharp joke, I cut myself” will show the bully and those around him the stupidity of the trick.